Review: 7 Things That Make or Break a Relationship by Paul McKenna

Relationships are the single-most studied areas of mystery for most of us human’s all over the world. How can we crack the code?
Paul McKenna shows us how…

I started out reading this book in lockdown of last year. I’ll just say I wasn’t in a relationship.

I was simply looking for a book to review that talked about dating, specifically, for my new project site ‘datemate.co.nz’. It’s taken me at least a year of thought to release this site. It’s taken me less time to get into a relationship, more time to get into one that works and even more time to find time to write and review this book.

From the initial moment I originally read the Paul McKenna’s insightful book, my whole purpose and reasoning behind reading to review changed. What changed was my realisation of its significance as a system that guides you, no matter where you are in your life.

From singledom to relationship, to relationship bliss
Writing this review has morphed from the shape of a single woman to one deeply involved in a great relationship. I need to define that I was in a particularly unhealthy relationship and it was then that the book was more beneficial to me as an individual, for personal growth, and understanding the why’s of my history with relationships.

Do I think this book had a hand in my relationship status?
I think it has had an impact on my own self awareness and self analysis and, interestingly, my new partner and I do now read the book together. So I have gone from reading this book alone to sharing the knowledge with a kindred spirit and one who is open to learning more.

Have I read the whole book?
I have read most of the book and I’m still going. The insights that this book has, from Paul McKenna’s perspective to the great references he has to historical studies and discoveries doctors have made, is part of what makes it a book that you can pick up and read in several different ways. Such has:

• Start at the beginning and read till the end and do all of the homework.
  (Yes, there are bite sized chapter check points so you can really learn about your own relationship)

• Read and listen to the downloadable audio that comes with the book and do all the homework
  (Yes, there is audio you can download and the book prompts you when to play it)

• Just dip in and out of it and use it as a continuous knowledge book to help you in the situation of your relationship. However I’d recommend reading as much as you can as it is designed to help you from the inside out.

This book acts on the concept of relationship therapy, as a tool that you can use to learn and grow in your relationship with each other. However, due to the nature relationships there is as much to be gained by reading it just for yourself and your relatability to others in general. There is much to be gained in terms of your own self worth and self-development. And almost as a bonus it can work to guide your romantic relationships.

My relationship is fine, we’re happy, I / we don’t need help
I’d like to say that even if you feel your relationship is fine, this is a great book to study as life has fair amount of stuff in it and sometimes its good to know what to do in case of this or that.

Sometimes we don’t realise what exactly is up or down when it’s right in front of us.

Most of all this book dispels some of the mystification that us human’s struggle with the most with workable and comprehendible exercises. So start learning now.

All in all I give this book 5 thumbs up.

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You can get this book at Penguin New Zealand